It’s a question you’ve probably asked yourself, and maybe you’ve even asked friends or family members: Can I get my ex back? No one can answer that question with any certainty. The reason you broke up, how friendly you’ve stayed and other things all have a lot to do with whether or not it’s possible to get back together.
If you’ve stayed friendly and you haven’t insulted each other, the chances of you getting back together are better than if things had gotten ugly. But even if the breakup was bad, people can forgive and set aside those hurt feelings if they try hard enough.
When you’ve asked your friends, “Can I get my ex back?” some of them probably told you that maybe you could. Some might have shouted “No way!” And some probably said they didn’t know.
Your closest friends probably know a lot about your break up situation, so their thoughts on the matter are important to you. But unless they’ve broken up with someone and gotten them back, they really don’t know the keys to getting someone back.
They might think you’re foolish when you ask them, “Can I get my ex back?” But maybe they think you shouldn’t want your ex back in the first place. It’s hard for them to be supportive if you do want your ex back, if they never liked him or her to start with.
Take all the advice you can get, but remember that not all of it is good advice. Beware of any extreme advice, like people telling you that you should just date several people or start another relationship to make your ex jealous. Jealousy could lead to your ex deciding to let you go, since you give the appearance that you’re already moving on.
When you ask some people, “Can I get my ex back?” they might encourage you to have many casual relationships and to forget about your ex. The decision is yours, but your goal is to not do anything to drive your ex farther away. Your ex finding out that you’ve slept with one or more people while you’ve been trying to get them back isn’t going to help your case.
The only truly honest answer to the question, “Can I get my ex back?” is maybe. To give yourself the best chance of getting back together with your ex, you need to make them miss you. You don’t have to date other people or make them jealous to do that.
Just be the best “you” you can be when you’re around them. We all like to be around pleasant, happy and friendly people. Be a good friend, be positive and helpful. Once you’ve made it clear you want another chance, trust that your ex knows that and has it on their mind.
Be the best person you can be when you’re around your ex, even if it’s hard. This will help them remember the reasons they fell in love with you in the first place.